There is different kind of separations, those that are of the physical realm, such as you separating from your mother's womb and etc. But I'll be talking about the separation that happens in your emotions, from the people you love.
I'm sure we all don't remember the first time we ever felt separation, but we surely do remember separation that made us feel that we have lost the world. Separations such as someone you love like your boyfriend/girlfriend who walked away from your life, vice versa. Usually, when we study in secondary school, and then we do our O's and graduate. We feel that separation in the bonds that we've created over the years in school. The stupid things that we've done together, the funny things we laugh at together, the hard times we've been through together. We think about them everyday, wondering when will be the next time that you guys will see each other again. Sometimes, it can affect us in ways that we don't know. We can start feeling sad all of a sudden, we can feel that we won't make it through without them. You start thinking "What If", what if we lost contact with one another, what if it becomes awkward the next time we see each other?
Well, I certainly have felt that, met a friend whom stays in Switzerland, a friend of my friend's. But even though I know that long friendships are very hard to keep, I couldn't help it because that friend was someone whom I can confide in. No matter where the person is, if you can find and feel that someone is there for you, you still can feel that love and bond with that person no matter where they are. But then it was all good when she was in Singapore for around 2 months. It wasn't a long time before she left for Swiz again. But during the time we had in SG, we made best of it. Having fun whenever we can, but then time caught up to us, and it was time for her to go back. Wish she didn't leave? OF COURSE. But then, that's where I have no choice but to learn how to make friendships like that last. Though we might be miles apart, I learned how to maintain that friendship. Though the separation is distance and time zones, caused us to have little time to talk to one another, cause when I'm awake she's asleep. 7 Hours difference. But we always still write letters to each other and then scan them and send to one another. Sometimes if possible we would call one another. But also as time passed, the amount we talked to one another got lesser and lesser. Sometimes, we might not have talked for a week or so. There was this point of time where it was certainly awkward at first after a long break of conversations. I thought it was over, that it was hard to pick it up once again, like something fell in the water, the deeper it went the harder it is to get back. You start to contemplate, if you are even going to jump in and go down for it. But then, well somehow things got back to normal pace, and we were the same duo that used to be all fun and loving once again! How did that happen? I have no idea, but I guess it does take effort of both parties.
I couldn't have done it on my own, if the other party didn't wish it to happen, it wouldn't have. But this just showed me even though we are separated we still can keep this going on, only if your commitment to the friendship is strong. Separation can either cause things to worsen or help build a stronger bond. Worsen in a situation where both parties leave, having hate and resentment and bitterness for one another, which will amplify over time causing them to never turn back and stop to think what they could actually do or have done to make it better. The other side to separation would help a bond be stronger. Why? Because if they both really were meant for one another, they would be thinking and feel sorry every moment of their life until they think it's time to do something about it. All it takes is for one of them to make the move again, and they will find that are now more in love than before and that they can't be apart. But i've also seen people who do that like countless times like it's some game, and really I would just prefer them to not be together, because they're just causing each other to be more hurt each time. Get your heart mind and feelings straightened out then sit down and think about it.
I would just like to end this topic by saying that, don't give up on any bonds that you have. Never forget that person. Even though you guys might not have talked for A LONG TIME, take the opportunity to talk to them or meet them if you get the chance. Don't let it slip. Time is short for everyone and it is unpredictable. Don't only regret when the separation becomes permanent and there is no way for you to ever see or hear the person again. (:
"Distance is not for the fearful, it is for the bold. It's for those who are willing to spend a lot of time alone in exchange for a little time with the one they love. It's for those knowing a good thing when they see it, even if they don't see it nearly enough..."
- Unknown.